I read The Guncle by Steven Rowley prior to selecting it for our book club. I laughed out loud so often that my husband couldn’t read his own book. Book club picks, even when uplifting or darkly humorous, are seldom funny to an entire group. This is true of The Guncle, but based on our discussion, the humor and wit paired with the sensitive approach to diversity and grief makes it a winner.
Although our discussions are always interesting and filled with insight, each member seemed to capture something different and important. I could almost see wheels turning and thoughts seemed wonder-full.
Usually, I combine the meeting responses into concepts and formal paragraphs, but even though I have certainly missed some details and complexity, the beauty of our members thoughts as the discussion flowed seems captured best with just these notes:
- Absolutely loved everything about the book. Laughed, cried, and found it authentic. He cried through chapters 19 and 20. His favorite zinger: “Would you like a martini?” “I’m six.” “Is that a yes?”
- Loved that they have a birthday party for Sarah and Patrick gave them each a wish.
- Loved the descriptions and similes.
- Could not suspend his disbelief that the children could have been better off with a man they do not know who knows nothing about children, far away from home and familiarity. Yeah, it was funny and worked out okay, but . . .
- Laughed so loud while reading on her porch that she worried people would think she was crazy. She liked the addition of Grant’s stutter and believed that the children taught their guncle a lot about love.
- Although the story seemed over the top and took him a while to get into it, he found it more interesting by the second half. He felt the story showed how to deal with change. He kept wondering how the author might have set it up to make it more interesting and relevant from the start.
- She liked the humor but primarily found it poignant. She appreciated how Patrick helped Maisie when she didn’t want to go into the pool and the Christmas in July gift of framed pictures of their mother.
- Being from San Bernadino, he really appreciated the inclusion of the Cabazon Dinosaurs[i].
- He once blessed the marriage of a triad (what a throuple used to be called) and they recently celebrated their 25th anniversary. What did we think of JED, the throuple?
- She felt a little bit of angst when Patrick got together with Emory – it seemed a risky thing to do with young children in the house.
- An adventure. Patrick had the money and that helped. A lot of sensitive stuff, but it worked.
- She liked how Patrick put so much thought into how to help the kids with their grief.
- Patrick told stories of their mother that they wanted/needed to hear. That is what is needed when people are grieving.
- Patrick gave them the structure that children need.
- The kids asked good questions.
- We liked Patrick’s answers to questions!
- One of us adored Emory.
- No one wakes up at twelve and decides to be gay. It’s inborn.
- It’s when you realize you’re crushing on all the dudes.
- What is Guncle Rule #14? She kept track but couldn’t find that one. (I said we could certainly find it if we asked Google – but no! It’s a mystery).
- Favorite Guncle rule: “Live life to the fullest.”
- Watch Auntie Mame with Rosalind Russell.
- No, Lucille Ball!
- She really liked the author’s writing. She could see the setting and envision the characters so clearly.
- In a book like this, you just have to suspend disbelief and enjoy it.
- Laughter is the best medicine.
I wish you all much laughter and love in this new year. Join the discussion. It makes a difference.
- WORDS:
- Pergola – an arbor formed of horizontal trelliswork supported on columns or posts, over which vines or other plants are trained.
- Pastiche – an incongruous combination of materials, forms, motifs, etc., taken from different sources; hodgepodge.
- Frosé – Frozen Rosé
- OTHER WORKS DISCUSSED:
- The Guncle Abroad (2024) Steven Rowley
- Little Birds (1940s) Anaïs Nin – feminist erotica first published 1979
- Auntie Mame (1958) starring Rosalind Russell
- Mame (1974) starring Lucille Ball
- The Brady Bunch (1969-1974) Television Show
- Mother Knows Best – I don’t know if we were referring to a real show or if this was just a take off of Father Knows Best.
[i] “The Cabazon Dinosaurs have long been regarded as one of the most iconic roadside attractions. Featured in cult classics such as Pee Wee Herman’s Big Adventure and The Wizard, the dinosaurs have staked their place in pop culture.” https://www.cabazondinosaurs.com





“Professor Abacus Abernathe’s Compendium of Heroes, Adventurers, and Other Intrepid Travelers,” but it is Emmett and Billy’s journey, constantly sidelined by Duchess that seemed most poignant. Sometimes I still see various scenes in my mind’s eye, like the orphans gathered round the empty jars of preserve, Woolly’s perfect day, his visit to the train tracks, Mr. Abernathy’s sprint from bushes to join Ulysses hopping a train. All spear-headed by Billy’s innocence and determination. Even the ending, which left me wondering about Emmet’s choices and their future, seemed fitting – a modern-day grand adventure.